• My fiance wants to join the military?

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    He isn’t certain which bend to stick on though. He’d do good with seashore ensure especially, though he seems to be bearing a Army, due to it’s some-more modernized training. I’m against to a Army, usually since of a situation. We have dual children, a dual year aged as well as a 3 month old. we stay home with them as well as am unequivocally gentle as well as grateful for this. We unequivocally have a decent set up. we devise to go to college as well as consequence a grade in el-ed. However, we have a heart problem, a single which is removing worse. we am usually twenty years old, as well as my Mother upheld usually final year from heart failure. She was usually 39. we theory I’m frightened of what would occur if my illness continues to get worse as well as my fiance is off portion a military. we have appointments late in this month to try as well as figure out what march of movement is indispensable to assistance my heart. We’re watchful as well as meditative of what to do. Are we a family chairman in a Military? How have things altered for we as well as your family? Any regrets? Please usually give insight. Thanks!

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    11 responses to “My fiance wants to join the military?”

    • He needs to evaluate WHY he wants to join the military. Based on the answers for that, he needs to figure out which branch conforms to that reason best. I say Army all the way because I should, but in this case, I also say consider the Air Force.

    • If you want him out of harms way but he wants to serve i’d go with the air force… they are ususally on airbases in saudi arabia and other places out of theater. Still great training and you be much more likely to see him again after the war.

    • 81st BCT Guy!
      March 4th, 2010 at 12:14

      Honest to God? He should join the Army. It’s nice pay, you can get set up with a house on base or a Basic Housing Allowance. Cheaper groceries and things at the Commissary and PX. Plust they have Medical and Denal and Vision. If your fiance has a BA/BS then he can join and apply for Officer Candidate School which will give you guys even MORE money. Plus, as far as doctors go the medical staff at local military hospitals are some of the best at what they do. Coast Guard? Yeah you have benefits and it’s a GREAT service (I’m an Auxiliarists) but it’s not exacly “family friendly” if you get my meaning.

    • My husband is in the Marine Corps and it’s fantastic, but this lifestyle isn’t for everyone. I would strongly suggest you two sitting down and evaluating the different branches of the military, his reasons for joining, and your relationship.

    • My father and both of my grandfathers were in the military
      (airforce and navy). My father hated it because he was away from my mother and the rest of his family, and left right after basic. My grandfathers were young and didn’t have anything holding them back, so they ended up serving in WWII, then meeting their wives. I would just say that all aspects of this new adventure need to be thought of thouroly, and keep your childrens best interest as #1. Keep in mind that it would be nice to have both of your parents around while you are growing up. Be careful and good luck!

    • No regrets. My husband has been in the Army for 24 years. He was active for 11, and has been in the Army Reserve since then. He’s been Active Reserve since 2003, and was in Iraq for 9 months just “after combat operations ceased” — like they ever did!

      In the active military, you have a really tight knit community and the Army is good about taking care of it’s soldiers and their families. Army family readiness is a big deal, and there is tremendous Army community support, so don’t be afraid for him to choose the Army for a career. I’ve also found the health care provided when he was active to be excellent, and it’s great to have health care coverage provided for free when so many people don’t have any these days.

      You will have to be prepared for him to serve overseas. That is just a fact of life in the Army now, for Active Duty, Reserve and Guard. And the training is second to none, so while you probably will worry, you really don’t need too. And, yes, soldiers do die while serving overseas, and at home — we’d rather it not happen, but it does, but probably not at a greater rate than the general population given the numbers of soldiers serving — it’s just more visable.

      We need good soldiers, so if your husband has a desire to serve, I’d say support him in that, and embrace the life you two and your family can have together while serving. And believe me, you will also serve, just in a non-paid capacity.

      And, while my husband has lived in Houston for most of the past five years (except when in Iraq), and we are in Austin, and he missed his oldest daughter’s high school graduation and other family events by only being able to come home on selected weekends, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. We’ve had some incredible experiences and met some wonderful people.

      Good luck in making your decision.

    • If you’ve got a family you don’t want to join the Marines or the Navy. You’ll be on a ship for 6 months at a time. But in the Marines you only go to Iraq for 6 months (average). In the Army you’ll be in one place (on base or in a house close by) and you’ll go to Iraq (average) for 15 months. In the AirForce you’ll get treated ALOT better (it’s run more like a business than the military) and you’ll probably only deploy for 3-6 months (when I was over, I saw 4 rotations of AF guys go through). But if his heart is set on the Marines, I say go for it. That’s what I’ve always wanted to do, but I was 17 when I joined and had to listen to my parents or they wouldn’t sign the papers. You can also join the Army or Air Force National Guard/ Reserves and they have some full-time positions. If you can get one of these, then it’s pretty good. You’ll probably only deploy once or twice within your first enlistment (6yrs) and you’ll get to stay close to home and family. Good luck whatever you do.

    • I’m a Navy wife with two kids too. We have no regrets! The military life is great! The benefits are good and you have a military family that’ll support you.

      My husband was a Navy Recruiter for 3 years and there are pros and cons to each branch. I say if he’s really looking for a specific branch, he needs to talk to a Recruiter of each branch (and not listen to one “bash” the other branches. They tend to do that to seal the deal.) Have him ask what their branch offers and ask any questions he has. The recruiters usually will start to say things like we have…. and the army/marine/airforce/navy don’t and yadayadayada. Strictly get info for all branches and then think about it before he tests (ASVAB i think that’s right). If he tests with one branch and then decides he wants to go with another branch, it’s a pain in the butt to get the test transferred over (no idea why but it is).

      Again, it’s great being a military wife. I’m a SAHM too (got my degree in Elem. Ed, but decided that all the crap you deal with isn’t worth it for the handful of kids that you go to work for). My hubby is currently deployed but I have my fellow shipwives to support me. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

      EDITED: Just so you know all the branches can and will deploy your husband to Iraq to serve. It doesn’t matter what branch he’s in there is always a chance he’ll go out there. My BIL is Airforce and he’s out there for 4-6 mos. My friend went Marines and he was out there for about a year. My husband (Navy) went out there for 6-9 mos. Army is out there for as long as they need them. Etc. Don’t make a decision based on which branch is most likely to NOT go to Iraq. They all can and will.

    • Big wah. He wants to serve his country right?..so why be the one to ruin his goal and make it one less recruited?…tsk tsk. No wonder why I’ll marry a man in uniform, I don’t need a civie who doesn’t and can’t support.

    • well my husband is in the navy and well things are not easy but we hang in there he is gone alot and well i don’t get to spend much time with him im from Cali. so all my family and friends are there and im leaving in virginia now for me is hard to get adjusted i have no kids but i think it most be difficult. i have been here for a yar and half and well he is being deplyed this year second time in less than 3 years so its pretty hard on me but im trying my best to stay positive but i do think that when you have kids things are harder.

    • I’m in the Coast Guard (19 years). We are sending limited people over to Iraq…..like 4 people from my unit out of 250 and all accepted as a volunteer and not assigned to go over. If you want him to stay around the US, then he should be in here with us. My cousin joined the Army last year and was sent to Iraq 6 months later and will be there probably another year since their extending tours. If you would like any information or have any questions, feel free to contact me.

      USCG MSTC


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